Finding the Right Therapist
Finding the right therapist is a bit like online dating. There’s a lot of options for apps or search engines, an overwhelming amount of choices, and not a lot of information about the other person. First impressions matter, and sometimes you just need to try something out to see if it works for you.
Let’s talk about why finding the right therapist is important. You’re right, this IS a big decision. You aren’t alone in being overwhelmed or not knowing where to start. Our instinct may tell us just to pick a therapist and get it over with - that any will do and it’s just too time-consuming to surf through them all. But, going to therapy is a big step and it’s important to find the right fit. Preferences and needs are a big consideration:
Who do you feel comfortable with? Why are you seeking counseling services? What are your needs?
We are taught to assume that all therapists provide a safe and sensitive environment for our needs. Those of us who come from marginalized communities have learned not to expect that everyone will be understanding, free of judgment, or non-discriminatory.
Center your search around your needs:
Vet people’s profiles and sites.
Look for familiar language, resources, education, and specialization.
Look for representation or symbols of cultural sensitivity
You are worthy of finding someone who fits your needs. You deserve someone who can provide a safe and sensitive environment for your identities.
Modern Path is unique because, in addition to our professional qualifications and competencies, we all have lived experience that impact who we serve and how we serve them. We all agree on making sure each therapeutic relationship is the right fit for both the counselor and client.
We show we care by being transparent and open in our sessions. For example, I make an effort to check-in at the end of each of our first couple of sessions. I want to provide space for you to express how are feeling about our therapeutic relationship. At the end of our first couple of sessions, I make room for discussion about our connection and ask if you would like to move forward together. Your feedback is important because we care about your well-being.
I invite you to express your counseling needs, so we can discuss if and how we can meet them. Perhaps individual counseling doesn’t feel right for you, and a group setting would suit you better. Maybe you need a counselor with a specific certification or therapeutic skill, and I may not match that need you have. It is okay if we don’t connect or we can’t meet your needs together. I want to help you get your needs met, even if it cannot be with me as your therapist. I will do what I can to connect you with someone else in our group practice, share resources about groups, or refer you to someone with specific training.
Center your choice in therapists around you, for long-lasting growth or change.